A hard lesson
Guest Blog by: Rob Stout , Colorado 1/5/2014
I recently learned a tough lesson, not only when it comes to fishing, but also when it comes to life. I am a freshman in high school, and I thought that it would be cake, and that I could get off with missing assignment here or there. Not only was I terribly wrong, but I suffered the consequences hard for it.
What I didn't realize is how much homework there was, and as more and more of the home work slipped, my grades followed. I then started to feel the effects. As things I enjoyed were stripped away one by one, I realized that I was in deep and that life was going to suck until I fixed it. Everything I loved was being stripped away, until the only things I was allowed to entertain myself with were the thoughts of what I was going to do.
To be totally honest, reading on this forum and site was the only thing keeping me on the brink of sanity, even if I couldn't post. My poor choices landed me with a two month period of not fishing, and by the time finals week rolled around my grades looked so bad that no one thought I would recover. Finals were a smash, and I got nothing lower than A or B. But the consequences are still yet to come.
I have a death sentence in the form of a class in summer school awaiting me, and it has me very quickly reorganizing my priorities. I used to be in the mindset of instant gratification, work before play, and I can always fix it at the last second, but what I've really learned is that doing the work first can make the play more fun, and it you wait to the last minute, your too late and whatever you are trying to fix is going to be jacked up for good.
Iím not trying to vent or just spin a yarn, but Iím truly trying to share a life experience that has changed me for good. As I can see second semester on the horizon, there is only one thing I can think. All Iím telling myself is ďRob, donít screw yourself over again. Your fishing rides on thisĒ.
Iím sharing this moment in my life to get a point across to other people out there, be it young or old, to say that yeah, you can screw up pretty bad, but if you are always looking forwards and learning from the past, there is a light at the end of the tunnel.
fom, CO 1/5/2014 3:44:48 PM
Good read Rob!!
Lloyd Tackitt, TX 1/5/2014 4:39:12 PM
Rob, the larger lesson you may be learning is that paying attention to actions and their consequences, and learning from that and then applying what you've learned as you move forward, is a necessary survival skill. The world is full of people that haven't learned that lesson, and suffer without realizing they are causing their own pain. Too many people take the role of victim of outside forces instead of taking control and making good things happen. You are way ahead of the curve already - good on you.
creole, CO 1/5/2014 5:29:41 PM
Rob I turn 42 here in couple weeks and am still learning to control my urges. I went an little overboard this fall and spent too much on a snow mobile and an ak-47. I had to havem! Couldn't pass up the great deal. Shortly after my tranny went out in my jeep and needles to say i didnt have the money. Two weeks before christmas i got laid off.Well I've only shot the ak only a couple times. The snowmobile I've had out every chance I get which hasnt been much do to lack of funds. Im married and have a little girl and they depend on me to provide. My intention to you is this: life is what u make of it. Always plan for the unexpected. Make ur responsibilities number 1 on ur priority list! Thankyou for ur post, young or old we all have to put in the work first to get the most out of life and it makes it that much more enjoyable when we do.
lewdog, CO 1/5/2014 5:38:26 PM
Good write up rob. Some people only learn from their own mistakes. Glad to hear you learned your lesson. If you like fishing with all your freetime try getting into an extra help class. It will give you time to get all your "home"work done on school time. Get the best of both world
anglerwannabe, CO 1/5/2014 6:42:20 PM
Rob if you truly learned from this experience. I am very happy for you. It is much easier to overcome now than later in life. Even if at the moment it doesn't feel like it.
IceFishingFool, CO 1/5/2014 6:50:13 PM
Rob, one hard lesson to learn is to "Eat Crow", its best when necessary to eat it while its young "Before it gets feathers"
Gill, CO 1/5/2014 8:50:18 PM
Is it me or does this kid seem way ahead of his years?
Good stuff little bro!
robsdad, CO 1/6/2014 8:26:01 AM
"doing the work first can make the play more fun", so you really have been listneing all this time. Very nicely written Rob, now it's time to "walk the walk"
ark angler, CO 1/6/2014 8:46:58 AM
Well done Rob and congrats to Robs dad for the parenting. Sometimes that seems like a lost art. This generation is loaded with great kids, I am just not sure that the guidance is always what it should be. It is easy to get distracted with everything going on around you and lose focus on what is important. Good luck going forward.